Okay, I agree, enough has been written about my wedding and elements thereof, but before I take the plunge, here is a last batch of words that at least some of you could still find use for.
Wedding planning—A crash course
Disclaimer: Contents inflammable. References to people dead/alive/yet to be born is not absolutely unintentional.
It is actually difficult to figure out where to begin, assuming you have figured out who you want to marry. For me what always works is beginning by elimination. Which means making a list of all the things you don’t want.
Here were mine:
1) No asking for advice unless you absolutely value the other person’s opinion and are likely to listen to what they have to say (parent’s, in-laws, out-laws included)
2) No losing control of the wedding invite. It not only ensures you can smile at the people who show up (because you know them), but is a keepsake you want to feel happy about and not embarrassed by. Note: Littering the recipient’s doorway with glitter should not be your single minded objective.
3) No succumbing to sitting on father’s lap and being given away (pundit, are you listening?)
4) No sitting on throne and asking people to queue up to wish you. I know this is the norm, but first, I find the thrones hideous (however elegant the decorator may claim them to be) and two, I hate queues—they feel like punishment, and there definitely wont be one at my wedding
5) No inviting pesky relatives, worse, relatives’ relatives just because they can stake claim to the family tree (I know I am repeating myself, but you must say this aloud to yourself a thousand times, if you want to have fun at your wedding)
6) No inviting ‘maybes’. If you are not sure whether a person is a well-wisher, may be he/she is not.
7) No straightening of hair for the big day. A friend who is a self-imposed advice giver told me, “Deepak has never seen you with straight hair. Get it done, believe me!” Yes, but he has never seen me 6 feet tall or with a 36 D” bust either.
8) No feeling sheepish when people ask you if you’d like cash or gifts. Say ‘cash’ with all abandon, unless you are absolutely sure you trust their taste in gifts. Else you will be stuck with hideous jewellery, sarees, tea sets, wall-pieces, crockery, cake-mixers, and worse, clocks!
9) No forgetting that it is ‘your’ wedding.
10) No wearing clothes/makeup that make you wonder ‘who’s that girl?’ when you see your photos ten years later. No judging clothes/jewellery by how much they weigh, even if others do.
11) No fearing that you will be under-dressed than your guests. It’s your wedding, they will have to look at you, they have no choice.
12) No stopping being yourself and acquiring coyness. If it comes naturally, keep it— might be cute. If it doesn’t, who cares? I am like this only.